There’s probably going to be a few ‘teary-eyed’ moments in the run up to your wedding. Don’t worry, it happens to almost every bride (and some grooms!). It can be a stressful time. So, it’s a good idea to have a plan in place to help you avoid stress as much as possible. We talked to some brides about how they avoided pre-wedding stress and we got some really interesting suggestions. Here, we’ve compiled some of the best tips we heard.
Get Your Thoughts Organised
The first thing you need to ask is: Why am I stressed? It’s probably because something has gone wrong. Maybe your band has cancelled, or your bridesmaids’ dresses don’t fit. Whatever it is, it can be fixed. The best way to work out how to fix it is to get organised. Write down the problem and a couple of possible outcomes. If you need to pay for something extra, work out how much it’s going to cost. Whatever the problem, it’s going to seem a lot less of an issue when you write it down.
Get Some Professional Help
A lot of couples decide to save money and plan the wedding themselves. This is a completely legitimate way of doing it and often turns out great, but it means that you have to shoulder the burden of the stress. If it’s all getting too much for you, why not get a wedding planner on board. They can take the stress away from you and make sure your day runs like a well-oiled machine.
Do Some Mindless Chores
Sometimes the stress you’re feeling won’t be about anything specific. If that’s the case, the best thing you can do is take your mind off it. Researchers at Florida State University found that washing the dishes whilst practicing mindfulness can decrease your stress levels. When you’re stressed about your wedding, you’re focusing too much on the future and not focusing on the present. Focusing on a simple task helps you to be more present.
Get Some Space
If you’re lucky enough to have the time and money, why not take a weekend away? It’s so easy to get completely engrossed in wedding planning and forget to live your life. Make a rule that you’re not allowed to talk about the wedding for the entire weekend. You’ll probably break it, but it’ll feel good while it lasts. If you can’t afford a whole holiday, a simple walk in the countryside will make you feel better.
Change Your Diet Up
Not only are you busy planning your wedding, you’re probably trying to lose weight to fit into your dress. We’re not against trying to look your best on your wedding day, but you should be careful about how your diet is affecting your stress level. If you’re not getting enough vitamins and minerals, your body won’t be able to deal with stress effectively. Some foods are really good for reducing anxiety such as brazil nuts, fatty fish, eggs, and dark chocolate.
Cut Down on Social Media
These days, looking at your phone seems like the answer to everything. Whether you’re watching TV, on the toilet, or even at the dinner table, it’s hard to avoid it. However, there’s a lot of evidence that it’s making you stressed out. This is probably made worse by the fact that you’ve followed loads of wedding pages on Instagram and Pinterest and are being bombarded with perfect weddings every day. It might not seem like a lot but taking some time off from social media can really help you relax and reconnect with the world.
Get A Good Night’s Sleep
The connection between sleep and stress has been known for a long time. Some people can live off four hours sleep a night, but for the rest of us, we need our beauty sleep. If you’re working a full-time job, looking after kids, and planning a wedding, it’s safe to say you’re not getting enough sleep. Plan an evening where you can get an early night. Turn off the TV early, drink some chamomile tea, and try to get eight hours of quality, uninterrupted sleep.
Get to The Gym
Another well-known stress antidote is exercise. It releases endorphins in your brain which give you a happy feeling and reduce feelings like pain and stress. The only difficult thing about the gym is mustering up the energy to go in the first place. If you think going to the gym is too much effort, you could go for a run or work out at home. Even a small amount of exercise will help make you feel better.
Get Some Perspective
It’s really easy to get carried away when you’re wedding planning. It can seem like your wedding is the only thing in the world that is worth caring about. But that’s simply not true. It’s really just one day in a lifetime full of memories. Sure, it’s an important day and people are going to remember it. But for you, it’s just the first day of a long and happy marriage.
Talk to Someone
Never forget the saying: a problem shared is a problem halved. If you’re struggling with stress, it’s important to talk to someone. If you don’t feel comfortable talking to your partner about it, you could confide in a friend or family member. Or, if you’d rather talk about the problem anonymously, why not try an internet forum or the Mind helpline. Remember, if you are feeling stressed, don’t bottle it up inside, talk to someone.
We’re not suggesting that you should use all of these tips at once, that would be a pretty busy day. But hopefully, you’ve found something that will help you avoid pre-wedding stress